The Anxious-Avoidant Trap: Why the Man You Want Keeps Pulling Away and the 5 Shifts That End It
For high-achieving women who've built the career, the friendships and the life they wanted, and still can't work out what to do about this one man
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Sound Familiar?
You make decisions all day without flinching. You hit your targets. People come to you when they don't know what to do.
You know you have a pattern. You've said it out loud. "I always choose the wrong ones."
You chase. You over-give. You collapse your standards the moment chemistry shows up.
You've done the therapy. You understand the why.
But understanding hasn't changed a thing.
Then a man you actually want starts pulling away, and the woman who never flinches is checking her phone at 2am, rereading messages she has already read eleven times, drafting a reply she will not send.
Nobody in your life knows this version of you exists.
You are watching yourself while it happens, but you feel powerless to stop it.
Register now and I'll show you how in the training.
It's not you. It's your nervous system. And it can be changed.
"The biggest shift is about setting boundaries. I can set the pace, and he does respect it. I just thought guys would give up or get impatient. It isn't like that. I really do feel in charge of my own destiny, regardless of what happens with this guy."
"Before this work I just didn't trust if anxiety was my gut or my trauma talking. I implemented these changes, and the responses I had from people were very different. I felt in control, and I could choose what was best for me without feeling guilty."
"I can't imagine I was actually choosing to go out with this other guy. He would have been red flagged out at the first date.. The guy I'm with now is my Bestie with Chemistry"
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Meet Kate Mansfield
Kate Mansfield is a highly-sought after relationship coach with fifteen years of experience working with men, women and couples on the one problem their success cannot fix - how to find and keep a relationship that actually holds.
Creator of the accredited Love Rewired Academy(®) relationship coach training school, her clients include elite athletes, Premier League footballers, CEOs and high-performers.
Specialism in addiction and attachment problems, codependency, anxious/avoidant dynamics, and 12-step recovery work.
Relationship Expert of the Year 2024, Dating.com. Featured in The Guardian, Sunday Times, Good Morning Britain and ITV.
Direct. Structured. Outcome driven. She will tell you the truth when nobody else will.
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You'll Walk Away Knowing:
- The surprising things that high-value men need from you to respect and value you and to feel enough emotional connection to want to stay (from someone who's heard it from their mouths for 15+ years).
- Why the men who feel safe lose every time to the men who make you anxious, and how to change that at the nervous system level rather than just understanding it.
- How to stop collapsing your standards around men you're attracted to without shutting down or abandoning yourself.
- My unique commitment conversation strategy that communicates your value and standards, yet won't freak him out or make him run (unless he's bad for you in the first place)
- How to immediately tell if the man you want is actually worthy of you, or whether your pattern is making you chase something that isn't real, is a waste of time, or even dangerous to you.
You are not waiting to be chosen.
You're deciding who gets to earn a place in your life.
Let's make sure you can tell the difference.
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